My Hype Man For Life: Why Having a Partner Who Shows Up (Even When They Don't Get It) Is Everything

okay so you guys know i love to share all the real stuff here, the good, the messy, the totally chaotic moments of life with three little girls and a husband who's just as wild as i am hahah. and today i wanted to talk about something that is honestly such a huge part of my happiness and success, and it all comes down to tanner. my sweet, sometimes clueless, always there-for-me hype man. you guys saw that little clip, and it’s just such a perfect snapshot of our life together. i can always, always count on him to hype me up, even when he has absolutely no idea what’s going on. and honestly? that’s the best kind of support there is.

The Power of Showing Up

i feel like in life, especially when you’re doing something a little unconventional or chasing big dreams, people don’t always get it. and that’s okay! my journey with creating content, building this community, it’s not exactly a traditional 9-to-5, you know? there are so many moving parts, so many ideas, so many times i’m just rambling about algorithms or brand deals or some new editing technique i’m trying. and tanner? bless his heart, he’s usually just nodding along, smiling, and saying “that’s amazing, babe!” or “you got this!”

he might not understand the nuances of a TikTok trend or why a certain video is performing better than another, but he understands me. he understands that this is my passion, this is what lights me up, and this is how i provide for our family. and because he gets that, he shows up. he shows up with encouragement, with a listening ear (even if he’s only catching every third word hahah), and with that unwavering belief that i can do anything. and honestly, that’s more valuable than any expert advice.

It's Not About Understanding, It's About Believing

i used to think that for someone to truly support you, they had to fully grasp every single detail of what you were doing. but i’ve learned that’s just not true. sometimes, the best support comes from someone who just believes in you, no questions asked. it’s that feeling of knowing you have a safe landing, no matter how high you jump. for me, that’s tanner.

i’ve had so many moments where i’m feeling overwhelmed or doubting myself, and just a quick look at him, or a simple “you’re crushing it” from him, completely shifts my perspective. it’s not about him solving my problems or giving me a strategic plan; it’s about him being a constant source of positive energy. he’s my cheerleader, my biggest fan, and he makes me feel like i can conquer the world, even when i’m just trying to conquer a mountain of laundry hahah.

Why This Kind of Support Matters So Much

think about it. we all have those moments where we feel a little lost, a little unsure. maybe you’re starting a new job, trying a new hobby, or just navigating the everyday chaos of parenthood. having someone in your corner who’s just genuinely excited for you, even if they don’t quite get the specifics, is such a gift. it takes the pressure off. you don’t have to explain everything, you don’t have to justify your choices. you just get to be you, and they get to love you for it.

for me, this is especially true with my work. there are so many moving parts to what i do, and it can be isolating sometimes. but knowing tanner is there, always ready with a high-five or a goofy dance to make me laugh, makes all the difference. it reminds me that i’m not alone, and that even when things get tough, i have someone who’s got my back. and that feeling? that’s priceless. it makes me feel so much more confident to take risks and try new things, bc i know he’ll be there to catch me if i fall, or just tell me i’m amazing for trying.

Building a Foundation of Trust and Love

this kind of unconditional support isn’t just about making me feel good; it’s about the foundation of our relationship. it builds trust, it builds love, and it strengthens our bond. when you feel truly seen and supported by your partner, even in the things they don’t fully understand, it creates a deep sense of security. i know that no matter what crazy idea i come up with next, tanner will be there, probably with a confused but loving look on his face, ready to cheer me on.

it’s also taught me to extend that same grace to him. there are things he’s passionate about that i might not fully grasp, but i try my best to be his hype woman too. it’s a two-way street, you know? it’s about showing up for each other, celebrating each other’s wins, and being a safe space for each other’s dreams. that’s what makes a partnership truly special.

Little Moments That Mean Everything

it’s not always about grand gestures. sometimes it’s the little things. it’s tanner watching me film a video and just giving me a thumbs up from across the room. it’s him asking me about my day, even if he knows half of it will go over his head. it’s him being excited when i tell him about a new opportunity, even if he doesn’t fully understand the industry jargon. those little moments, those consistent acts of encouragement, are what truly add up. they create a tapestry of support that makes navigating life so much easier and more joyful.

i think sometimes we overcomplicate relationships, expecting our partners to be mind-readers or to perfectly align with every single one of our interests. but what if it’s simpler than that? what if it’s just about showing up, believing in each other, and being each other’s biggest fans? that’s what i’ve found to be true with tanner, and it’s made all the difference in the world for me.

My Advice (If You Even Want It hahah)

if you’re looking for that kind of support in your own life, whether it’s from a partner, a friend, or a family member, i think it starts with open communication. share your passions, even the weird ones. let people know what lights you up. and then, be open to receiving support in whatever form it comes. it might not always be the perfect advice or a deep understanding of your niche, but it might just be that unwavering belief that you’ve got this. and sometimes, that’s all you really need.

so yeah, shoutout to my amazing hype man, tanner. ily, babe. thanks for always showing up, even when you have no clue what’s going on. it means more to me than you’ll ever know. :,)